RECLAIMING WOMEN'S DESIRE, ENTRY 8 Thief #6: virginity culture

Virginity and the language surrounding it 
Virginity is something that is lost, like afterward, the woman is less than she was before. The woman gives it away as if it is not something she does for herself but instead a gift she gives for someone else’s enjoyment or use. And it’s a One Time Thing, that after you’ve lost it or given it away, it is something you can’t undo, it’s gone, you’re changed and you can’t get it back. The fear of forever being changed is real. Associating the word purity with virginity and unpure with sexually experienced, is masterfully robbing woman of their desire. Who wants to be unpure? And just like the word sex itself , virgin status relies on penis penetrating vagina sex. Despite these messed up messages, young women’s desire fights for survival and they participate exclusively in oral or anal sex while desperately trying to hold on to something called their “virginity“.  We need to squash this obsession with virginity altogether. It’s meaningless and powerful and robbing women of their desire.

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