RECLAIMING WOMEN'S DESIRE, ENTRY 6 thief #4: The manipulation of the message of the #metoo movement2/19/2024 Manipulating the message of the #metoo movement.
The #metoo movement was hijacked by the patriarchy to convince society that women hate all things sex related. The media shortened women's stories of assault and abuse so that their meaning actually changed. The changed meaning is subtle and difficult to notice but the impact was devastating. It happened like this. The woman in the interview clip says, “He grabbed my pussy when I didn't want him to!” And the interviewer gasps and says, "That’s terrible! He grabbed your pussy! I can’t believe it! How dare he! It's wrong to grab someone's pussy." The message becomes about the act, not about the woman's consent, or power or voice. The message becomes that women don't want men to touch them, in fact, to touch a woman is wrong and only bad people do it. This is so harmful because it robs women of their desire. Similarly, I just watched the Bikram yoga documentary on Netflix and a woman told a story that was meant to illustrate the guilt of a man named Bikram as a predator. The woman explains that one night when she was giving a man, Bikram, a massage, he asked her to massage his dick. She said no, I don’t want to do that. He said okay, no problem, don’t worry I won’t ask again. And that was it. This story is told as if she was an assault victim. So the message is that women never want to touch a dick and to be invited to touch a dick is assault. Women who love massaging dick and are so happy to be invited to do it are shamed. Men are told never to ask a woman to massage his dick, or be prepared to go to jail. Our desire is being taken away from us. Consent and only consent is the deciding factor in separating a experience of pleasure from assault. This point must be emphasized and made clear but instead it is being left out of the story. And the effect is scary damaging and robbing women of their desire.
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